The pressure of keeping certain parts of yourself under wraps is exhausting, but it feels like you have to.
You’ve been doing it so long you can’t even imagine what it might be like to live without a mask on. The weight of it has felt all-consuming.
And yet, here you are. Wondering if life can look different, if you can have a life led by authenticity rather than fear, and connection rather than shame.
I’m here to say gently yet emphatically: yes, you can. And I would love nothing more than to support you as you find your way.
Together, we can uncover the beliefs and feelings that are causing you pain, help you understand how to deepen your relationships (with yourself and with others), and give you the tools you need to create your most authentic life.
I’m an Oklahoma therapist providing support for concerns around sexuality, identity, and non-traditional relationships.
In my work, I use a warm, collaborative approach to help you uncover and discover the parts of you that you’ve kept hidden, that have been causing you pain, fear, grief, sadness, anxiety, or even trauma. I come from the belief that there's nothing “wrong with you”—there’s more wrong with the world we live in, and figuring out how to be our most authentic selves in this world is the most beautiful and important thing we can do.
It's my goal to help you dismantle internalized shame and judgment, embrace the hidden aspects of who you are, and learn how to deepen and create authentic connections with yourself and others
You’ve spent years not living as your full, authentic self, and it’s been hurting for just as long. You’re ready to discover the parts of you that have been pushed aside, covered up, and looked past. This might include explorations around your gender identity, different aspects of self and identity, or just learning to embrace the parts of you that you have hidden to keep yourself safe. In therapy, we can gently invite these parts to the conversation and give space to words that have gone unheard for years.
Sex can feel like a tricky or embarrassing subject to bring up in therapy. I get it. But I promise, you aren’t going to scare me, make me uncomfortable or over-share by talking about sex. There is no "stupid questions" when it comes to sex. If I don't know the answer, we will figure it out together! I’m here to help you make sense of the tricky bits without any shame or judgment, so you can discover (or re-discover) what turns you on, what gives you pleasure, or what might be standing in the way of a more satisfying, pleasurable sex life.
Kink, ethical-nonmongamy, and polyamory are “non-traditional” forms of love that fall outside of the monogamous norm. Many folks in these relationship structures find themselves lost when it comes to understanding how to navigate the nuances of their relationships. In therapy, we can unpack monogamous programming, process the emotions that arise from non-traditional relationships, and help you expand your capacity for love in all the yummiest ways possible.
I’m never going to yuck your yum, tell you to hide who you are, or judge the parts of you that come out in therapy. Ultimately, my goal is to create a therapy space where no conversation is off limits—from your favorite band or TV show, to “the thing” you’ve never told anyone about before, and everything else in between.
Ready to get started? I can wait to begin.