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Therapy for Sexual Empowerment, Kink, Identity Exploration, Non-Traditional Relationships & More

Loren Marshall LPC | Online Therapy in Oklahoma

I provide teletherapy in Oklahoma for folks who are tired of hiding who they are, and are searching for more authenticity and connection in their lives.

I love working with folks who are fed up with people-pleasing, tired of shutting down parts of themselves, and done with feeling isolated in their shame or self-loathing.

In my work with clients, I operate from the perspective that we’re all doing the best we can in the moment we’re in with the tools we’ve got. This often means that many of us spend years and years of our lives as inauthentic versions of ourselves as a way to survive, even long after the original threat has passed.

I absolutely love being able to help my clients restore a sense of safety, self-trust, connection and authenticity to their lives.

Whether it’s through sexual empowerment and kink, gender and identity exploration, expanding your love through ethical non-monogamy, or learning to love and trust yourself on a deeper level, I am here for all of it.

I know looking for a therapist can be tough, and honestly, kinda scary. You want to make sure your therapist understands what you’re going through and that they have the skills, knowledge, and empathy to actually help you, not judge you.

I’m so glad you’re here and would love to see if I’m the right fit for you. And even if I’m not, I would be more than happy to help you find the therapist who is.

About My Specialties

Sex means something different to everybody. Whether it’s taboo and shameful or fun and self-expressive depends a lot on where you come from, who you are, where you’ve been, and what you’ve been through.

From the get-go, my goal is to understand you as a whole person, without judgment. Together, we’ll deconstruct what you’ve been taught is shameful or wrong about sex and pleasure, and rebuild a new vision for what satisfying, empowering sex means to you.

Our work in therapy can also include the world of kink & BDSM as forms of self-exploration and sexual empowerment. No topic is off limits, and I’ll never yuck your yum.

Maybe there’s a part of you that you’ve kept tucked away for most of your life, and you’re ready to bring it out and get to know it a little better.

Or perhaps you’ve spent your life as an entirely different person than who you actually are, and you’re tired of holding the mask up for everyone else’s comfort but your own.

For some folks, therapy is the first place they feel truly safe to bring their most hidden parts out into the light. It’s a place where we can deconstruct what it means to be born into certain gender expectations, or to hold a certain identity within society.

Therapy is where we can learn how to circumvent the systems that seek to oppress us, so we might live more authentically, more connected to ourselves and others, and more deeply. I’d love nothing more than to partner with you as you explore these parts of yourself.

Love is a beautiful, limitless resource. Unfortunately, time, energy, money, space, and emotional labor are not.

As an ENM & poly friendly therapist in Tulsa, I love working with ENM folks in individual counseling who need support with expanding their love in ethical, healthy ways. This includes strengthening your sense of self, understanding your needs and desires, and helping you with the emotional ups and downs of an open relationship.

In polyamory friendly therapy, you’ll work with a therapist who is not only non-judgmental, but who isn’t going to shame or question the way you love and live.

It can feel overwhelming and scary to show up as your true self in today’s world. Stigma, judgment and discrimination can make it feel nearly impossible to explore, let alone accept, your true & beautiful self.

That said, the world is brighter with you in it, and you deserve therapy with someone who is not only empathetic to the unique needs of the LGBTQIA+ community, but who is personally affected by them as well.

As a lesbian who grew up in the South, I am no stranger to the struggle of finding providers that have lived experience. That's why I am so passionate about making therapy a space where LGBTQIA+ folks can explore without fear, or having to continually explain themselves.

My Approach to Therapy

In my work, I use a blend of Relational Cultural Therapy (RCT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help my clients move toward growth, authenticity, meaningful connection, and an unshakeable sense of self-trust.

Essentially, I work with the guiding beliefs that:

growth happens through meaningful, trusting relationships
authenticity is at the center of those relationships
we are wired to connect as humans, and
understanding how systems of oppression disconnect us is an essential way of bringing ourselves back into connection

I also work with the guiding beliefs that we are all made up of a multitude of “parts.” These parts hold a wealth of wisdom, emotion, pain, and power. They developed as a way to keep us safe and connected throughout childhood and beyond.

Sometimes, we hide or shove different parts of ourselves down because we’re afraid of them, embarrassed of them, or think they’re unacceptable. This can cause a lot of pain and inner conflict.

It’s my hope as your therapist to help those parts learn to trust that they’re safe to come out and engage with the world again—and that you are safe to let those parts be known, seen, and loved.

Get to the root of yourself

When we work together, I will do my best to help you break free from cycles of self-isolation and self-abandonment, while giving you the space to explore the roots of who you are—with compassion, connection, and authenticity.

If you’re ready to get started, I’d love to hear from you. Click the button below to get started.